Changing one’s Defensive Posture

Podcast episode 011922

Published on January 19th, 2022

This week I sit down and talk with published author Jenna Ashlyn about her transformation to a gun owner from a DV victim. We discuss the mindset changes that were necessary for her to cross, to change both her defensive position by having a gun, and the mental changes that cleared her mind should the escalation ever be necessary. A great conversation with a really great person, I wish her all the best with her new book.

We know that 2021, and 2022 saw an insane in first-time gun owners, as many sought the safety and security of a response to an eminent threat to their person, but just as importantly, is the mindset behind the trigger. Instead of a "knee-jerk" reaction that many attempted, Jenna did it the right way by going through the work of transforming the processes within her mind to be able to have clarity of thought when going to that level.

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Here is the official wording for the back cover of the book "Sheila's Men" and the author bio that is on there as well which will help to introduce the book and myself when the time arises for each of those things...

SHEILA’S MEN is a dark modern fairy tale that follows the life of Sheila, a naïve romantic living in poverty who blindly marries a man in the hopes of providing a better life for herself and her daughter. Soon after marrying, her husband increasingly subjects her to emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. And since he refuses to get a job, Sheila begins working long hours far from home and encounters a seemingly endless onslaught from other manipulative and abusive men. Growing increasingly overworked, distanced from her beloved daughter, and frustrated with the manipulative and abusive men inside and outside her home, Sheila prepares to end her life. If there is a prince charming who understands her worth, he must inspire her to believe in herself soon. (Based on a true story.)

WARNING: Sheila's Men is a fictionalized account of one woman’s real-life struggle to escape abusive relationships and is intended, in part, to help others recognize and escape such relationships. As such, this book necessarily contains language and scenarios related to self-harm, suicide, and abuse (emotional, physical, sexual, and financial) that might be triggering for some audiences. Reader discretion is advised.


JENNA ASHLYN is a volunteer for Southern Ohio’s Survivor Advocacy Outreach Program, providing support and services to victims of abuse. She studied creative writing at both the University of Rio Grande and Marshall University, where she worked for the campus literary magazine Et Cetera. Jenna’s writing has appeared in numerous literary magazines, including Night Roses, The Atwood Review, and Poet’s Choice. In 2015, she won the overall writing award in the StarJewel Nationals and Talent Showcase arts contest, and in 2019, she was nominated for a Maier Award, which celebrates the best writing by Marshall University students. In 2020, Jenna released her debut novel, Within the Gray.

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